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Wow. I may not be blogging anymore. Below is a comment I just received. Truly, I am just flabbergasted. I think I will wait before I respond because right now, my response would not only be self-centered, but pointed nasty. I hope I never gave anyone the impressioin that I was perfect. Cheers.
"Anonymous has left a new comment on your post "Whose Blog Is It Anyway.": When Dalton was here and I use to read your blogs, I thought you were very "self-centered". Now,you've just confirmed it!! I feel sorry for you! You think too much of yourself, what "I" feel, what "I" want, what "I", "I", "I". You need to grow up and go on with your life. You have a son and that's more than many woman out there are asking for. Dalton may be gone and you may experience the loss and the pain, but you're going way off the hill. You should be thanking God Dalton is not here suffering the "cancer pain" and that's more than your pain. Your pain will ease over time, maybe many months, or even years, but eventually it will go away. There was nothing to cure or to ease Dalton's pain! I guess you never had faith either. If you did, you would not feel the way you do about God. God is not stubborn or grants us our wishes when we want to. He decides, he owns our lives, He has a plan which may not be your plan. You're a coward. You want the easy way out!! Vegas, gambling, drinking --- start taking care of Iain!"
posted by Tricia @ 8:13 PM
11 Comments:
Tricia, ridiculous, you know it and I know it. Ignore it. Don't allow morons to live in your head without paying rent. Blog on, dear one, blog on! And if you need me to go to Vegas with you and leave it in Vegas, lemme know. I'll be a good influence with a BAAAD streak!
love,
Steve
Wow, whoever that person is should really go to hell. And I mean it.
The comments from "anonymous" are spiteful, self-centered, and down right mean. He/she obviously has no idea what grief is like nor a sense of what "bearing one another's burden" is like. Tricia, you have every right to struggle with your faith, and wrestle with God in this crisis. I am confident that you and your faith will come out stronger on the other end. "Anonymous" seems to think that you just pick up and move on with your life. Well, you are actually processing through your grief with us, and have helped so many others who are going through the same pain. That seems like the healthiest, most selfless thing you could do. And....it will take a while for the pain to go away----2 months is not a while! Dalton's pain is gone and he is rejoicing, the brutal fact is that you have to deal with life here, every day. I love you and will be here with you through the whole process. You are on the right track to getting through this---don't ever doubt it!
The irony in someone saying "You are a coward"-- signed "anonymous"
It's like the Elephant man screaming "You are all deformed"
silly silly anonymous
I've read some really great writings from "anonymous" -- this is such a surprise
For example:
"Count your age with friends but not with years."
-anonymous
"I have often regretted my speech, never my silence."
-anonymous
seems like you don't even live by your own words.
I think we have to all now wake up and realize--
ANONYMOUS IS A HACK!
I AM CALLING FOR A BOYCOTT OF ALL WORKS DONE BY "ANONYMOUS"
I can no longer be into your quotes.
So sad for us all.
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Tricia,
Anonymous is a monkey butt. Plain and simple. Monkey Butt has probably never had love the way that you and Dalton had love. If marriage is two people becoming one, then having half of yourself ripped away is excruciatingly painful.
But you know that. We just don't think Monkey Butt does.
To Monkey Butt:
Lay off Tricia! And if you've got the guts, show yourself.
Signed,
David and Rachel Seymour
That comment is excellent. What a simple minded f@ck.
Blogs are, by definition, self centered. Web logs are essentially public journals. If someone doesn't understand that, they should stop reading blogs.
I also have little tolerance for simple minded "God" discussions. I have had those in the past with other people, and it just pisses me off. He died because it was "God's plan". How convenient. Death? "God's plan." Suffering? "God's plan". Pain? "God's plan". Holocaust? God's plan? Such simple minded arguments don't do justice to God and the gift of reason he has given us.
Anyone who doesn't understand that the death of spouse involves complex feelings and extensive soul searching needs to "grow up".
That said, if you don't want to deal with cowardly "annonymous" posts I would certainly understand you not writting anymore.
Scot
Tricia -
Your blog, your thoughts, feelings and experiences, your generous nature to share them with others.
If the blog helps you, keep it up. Know that you have helped others who are grieving.
You are in my prayers.
Hi! This is Kelly V. here.
Tricia is one of my dearest friends and a true inspiration to me so I'm gonna be a bit on the defensive here on her behalf. I think all the other comments that have been posted recently in response to Mr./Ms. Anonymous are right on and show the great love, respect and admiration that all who know Tricia have for her. It blows my mind that Mr./Ms. Anonymous, after stating that he/she/it found Tricia's blog self-centered and offensive many months ago, still seemed to read it on a regular basis. What?...was this like Mr./Ms. Anonymous' entertainment outlet...was Tricia's intimate outpouring of pure pain and loss Mr./Ms. Anonymous' "Entertainment Tonight" or "Access Hollywood". Good Grief! I sort of feel like Mr/Ms. Anonymous is like the Mandy Moore character in the movie "Saved" when she throws a bible as hard as she can at a much suffering friend's head screaming with venom, "I'm filled with Christ's love." That's what Mr./Ms. Anonymous' comment seemed like to me. I won't keep y'all much longer but I just want to say one other thing in response to Mr./Ms. Anonymous' schpeel (SP?). I spend a lot of time with my beautiful friend Tricia and her gorgeous, darling son, Iain. Through this entire unbelievably painful time, Tricia has managed to be the most caring, loving, responsible, wonderful, concerned, loving (worth mentioning again) mother to her 15 month old son. I recently spent a week with her in Tennessee and would just watch in awe at what a fantastic parent she is!!!! Let me just say, I took notes (being the mother of a 16 month old myself). Iain is one blessed boy to have Tricia Harding has his Mom!!! I love you Tricia! I know it's trite to say but....YOU ROCK!
the comments made by anon have brought me to tears.
i am not sure if its because i am to my core angry...angry that a person could be so downright awful.
or if its because i feel a deep deep sorrow for anon. a sorrow that i imagine God feels when one of His little ones gets it so wrong. and gets it so wrong in His name.
anon-why are you living in fear? do you think that the Almighty God is not big enough to handle our doubts? our pain? our sorrow? our selfishness? our sin? do you honestly think that God NEEDS YOU?
well...let me clear it up for you. He doesn't need you. His world is not banking on your successful "Christian" life.
...but he does love...even you anon...deeply. passionately. in spite of your cruel words.
my tears also come with confidence...i can feel how much God's heart is pining over Tricia right this moment. He is embracing her in the most real way as she comes honestly and intimately to Him. Even if her grief is too great to feel Him now...He is right there.
Tricia-keep writing. keep questioning. keep being honest.
-jen
Tricia - That person is just immature (I'm being graceful towards them). They are most definitely WAY out of line and obviously mislead and confused and downright WRONG. Please do keep writing. That's just one...immature...person.
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